2. Always Apply Common Sense
Kids do crazy things. That’s their job! If they don’t go a little wild, they won’t learn what works and what doesn’t. There’s a literal change in brain development around age 25 that tones down the randomness. You’ve got the advantage of common sense. You can help by gently reining in rash online behaviors, and by installing software to head off the worst consequences.
You know you need antivirus on your computers, even though you try not to click suspicious links or visit sketchy sites. Your kids are surely more impulsive with their clicks, so they need that protection even more. Consider the following tools that let you manage protection for all your family’s devices. While these aren’t all Editors’ Choice top picks, they do all let you manage your family’s protection from a single console. You don’t want antivirus that gets in the way—your kids may find a way to turn off the annoyance.
If you’ve already got an antivirus or security suite that works well for your family, take a moment to examine it. You may find that you already have at least some degree of remote control, or at least remote security monitoring.
3. Don’t Impose Knee-Jerk Screen Time Limits
It used to be so clear: Too much screen time is bad for kids, period! The American Academy of Pediatrics used to advise keeping kids away from electronics up to two years, and then allow at most an hour a day up to five years. But that’s not what they say now. The Academy has backed off from these specific limits, recommending a more holistic approach that includes setting aside time without tech and modeling good behavior for your kids. Yes, that could mean cutting back on your own habit of sitting for hours in front of ESPN or the news.
While some of us at PCMag are parents, we’re not pediatricians or child behavior specialists. We suggest you review sources like the Mayo Clinic for advice. One thing we do know is this: counting online school time against an overall screen time limit would be a terrible idea. You might consider the opposite; let the kids earn extra fun time with their devices by completing schoolwork successfully. Note, too, that screen time management is built right into many devices , particularly those from Apple.
In fact, some parental control systems impose reward systems alongside screen time limits, letting the kids earn more time. Screen Time lets you list tasks and chores that kids can complete to earn more time. It’s up to the child to choose and finish a task and send a parental notification. Circle Home Plus also includes a rewards system that can give kids more online time, a later bedtime, or a pass to use the internet outside the normal schedule.
4. Don’t Picture Your Kid as a Slacker
When home is school and school is home, kids may have a hard time focusing on studies. That doesn’t mean they’re lazy, it means they need some structure. Consider setting up a separate user account on your child’s PC or Mac that’s specifically for school, and equip it with the necessary tools for school. Next, clear away any distractions like games.
Setting a specific time to work in the school account may be all the structure your child needs. If it becomes a struggle, you might consider using parental control to make the “fun” account unavailable during school time. But remember, some kids will take that as a challenge.
5. Create a Classroom at Home
The youngest school-age kids haven’t really internalized the structure of a school day. For them, you may want to create a defined place for schoolwork. Put the homework computer in the family room or another public area, so you can keep an eye on their progress. Who needs parental control software when you can just glance across the room and say, “Hey, what are you doing?”
Older kids may have been accustomed to spreading out homework on the dining table. That was awfully convenient if you wanted to shoulder-surf and get an idea of how the homework is going. If instead they’re off in their rooms working on a laptop or tablet, you don’t really know what’s going on. Consider making an attractive, inviting public space for schoolwork. Bring snacks! And if you need tips for keeping things organized, we've got a guide for that .
6. Help Non-Techie Teachers
One more thought about schooling at home. Many school districts will be opening for online-only classes this fall, or for a combination of in-person and online. And many teachers aren’t remotely ready for that. They trained for the standard in-school classroom, not for the high-tech wonders of distance learning. The first step is to familiarize yourself with the system they'll be using. Have you ever laid eyes on Google Classroom? Has your kid? With our Google Classroom primer , you can both get a head start on the new school year.
You can help by making sure everything is set up correctly at your end. Buy new equipment if needed—hey, you’re not spending money on pencils, lunchboxes, and Trapper Keepers! You might need to lay out money for a new laptop for your kid , however. Chromebooks are especially good for tight budgets.
Going a step further, check with your school district to see if there’s a program for students in need of computers and related tech. That old laptop hanging out in the closet might make all the difference for a child who needs it.
7. Keep an Eye on Your Kids' Friends
Before the internet, keeping your children at home could have been sheer torture. No going out to play. No interaction with their friends (except by tying up the landline). Modern kids are connected in so very many ways, parents can hardly keep up. Texting? Old hat. Facebook? That’s for parents. What about WhatsApp , TikTok , Discord , and Twitch ? The one thing they’re not is isolated.
In the past, some parental monitoring systems promised to let parents track and control their children’s instant messaging. You could once configure Norton to send you the content of any texts from unknown contacts, at which point you could trust the contact (meaning no more snooping message content) or block access. That feature ended when Android locked down texts, but it doesn’t matter given the plentiful other ways kids can communicate.
Bitdefender’s Premium parental control went farther, analyzing texts and images sent using WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, and Instagram. Its AI-based analysis looked for patterns of abuse or bullying and warned parents as necessary, without violating the child’s privacy by giving parents access to messages. And…it proved too difficult to maintain. Bitdefender will shutter this service in August.
Technology really can’t help you here. If you clamp down on one messaging system, your kid will find another. And do you truly want to read all your child’s messages? That seems invasive. I did say that none of us at PCMag are child behavior experts, but surely it makes sense to keep the lines of communication open.
8. Encourage All Kinds of Learning
Learning doesn’t just happen in school, and it’s not the only thing that happens in school. There’s also socializing in the lunchroom, playing at recess, and going to after-school clubs for special interests. You can’t help much with socialization, but you can encourage your kids to take an interest in learning just for fun. Being able to make things happen with code is almost like learning magic spells, for the right kid.
The same resources that helped you survive no-school summer with younger kids don’t have to stop just because school starts. Check out these free online educational apps and activities . Your kids are connected, so take advantage of that fact to point them at places where learning is fun.
9. Level Up Your Tech
Making sure your kids have the devices they need for school is the bare minimum. Once you’ve accomplished that, consider whether you can do a little more to level up your tech. It’s not just laptops and desktops for the kids to work on. Can your router handle your work-from-home load along with everything your kids are doing? Maybe you need a new headset so your children’s long-distance gaming taunts don’t spill over into your video meetings. We've got a comprehensive collection of the best tech for going back to school even when school is at home.
But wait, you may think, my kid now has a laptop that’s better than my own! That may well be completely appropriate, given the level of multitasking that comes naturally to kids. Streaming a video , having a conversation, working on homework—when all this happens at once, an old laptop may just not make the grade. Do check with the local school district to make sure of any hardware or operating system requirements. If your kid isn’t using the accepted device, advice from the teacher may be confusing. Right-click? How do you do that on a Mac?
One more thing. Older kids in particular may be up late working on homework, or having fun. Blue light can disturb the sleep cycle, so keep an eye out for monitors with reduced blue light levels , and take advantage of the time-based blue light reduction settings built into Windows and other platforms. Even better, check out a pair of blue-light-blocking glasses .
10. Turn It All Off
Just because your kids are perfectly at home online doesn’t mean they (or you) should always be connected. Consider setting aside time regularly for family activities to which connected devices aren’t invited. Just what that means will depend on what your family wants. You might choose a family game night, or a campout in the back yard.
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